I have a friend who is seriously, seriously, seriously Super Mom! She literally gets up at all hours of the morning to work out. She then “food preps” for their dinner that evening, makes lunches, does her devotions, gets some laundry done and then gets herself ready for work before the kids wake up. Oh yeah, did I mention that she works full time too? Yeah- seriously super mom!
She gets so much done before I even wake up! I seriously don’t know how this mom does this.
When she was telling me this, I started feeling….well, like the opposite of Super Mom….whoever that is.
Do you ever feel inadequate? I mean, come on, we moms are busy! I don’t have time to put make-up on some mornings, let alone do all that stuff. I am lucky if my clothes match before I run out the door.
I have another friend who told me her labor was amazing (which I am so happy about, by the way). She didn’t get an epidural and it hurt, but you know, it wasn’t really that bad.
And I want to look at her and be all like, “Seriously, right now?”
While she is telling me this I am shrinking back in my chair because I had an epidural really early in the game because I am a big baby and let’s face it- IT HURT!
I started feeling inadequate talking to her. I thought, “Well, if she did it, maybe I can try no meds for the next one,” and then I just start laughing because that is hilarious- I mean, come on, I can’t even handle a paper cut.
Do you ever do that?
As women, we sometimes tend to compare ourselves to other women. We can be hard on ourselves when we see other women doing something we aren’t doing or can’t do.
I am here to tell you first hand- It’s completely draining, so stop!
You are who you are, don’t ever try to change that. Don’t compare yourself because God made you in his image and he loves you for you. He knows how hard you try. He knows how tired you are. He knows you have a lot on your plate. Don’t add more to it by trying to keep up with the “Super Moms.”
Don’t worry if your child is eating a hot dog for dinner when your sister’s kids eat peas and carrots every night- AND LIKE THEM!
Don’t worry if your child has two different shoes on when he or she gets to daycare….or better yet…no shoes at all because you completely forgot them. If the other moms dropping their kids off judge you for it, they clearly forgot about when they did it, because we have all been there.
Don’t worry if you have to put Mickey Mouse Clubhouse on for a few minutes so you can just catch up on the 15 text messages you haven’t read yet. Even though your friends claim their kids don’t watch any TV, let’s face it, they aren’t living in the same time era as us.
Don’t worry if your child can’t do that fun gymnastics program that all her friends are doing because you just can’t afford it. He or she will be okay just to spend time with you playing board games at home. (They may put up a fight at first, but it won’t kill them, they will be okay.)
Are you seeing a theme here?
Don’t worry about keeping up with the “super moms.” Be the best you can be and trust me, your child will still adore you. Don’t kill yourself trying to keep up with the Jones’s.
When you are actually feeling like this because you don’t feel like you are doing a good enough job:
Warning: If you don’t stop comparing yourself to “super moms,” you will slowly start getting bitter. This is not a path you want to go down, my friends. You don’t want to become bitter with your friends, family, or whoever it is in your life that is “super mom.” Don’t let your jealousy effect your friendship because you aren’t able to do things that they can.
Instead, be happy for them! So they are doing something you can’t, who cares!? Be happy for these people, because you never know how hard it may have been for them to get to that point.
Let me leave you with one last thought- you may feel inadequate at times, but your kids don’t see that. They always see the “super mom” in you whether you feel like you are or not.
PS. To all my “Super Moms” reading this, I think you are awesome! I think it is so great how you are able to squeeze everything you can into that small schedule of yours and be successful at it. I don’t know how you do it and I wish I could be more like you. Keep up the good work:)