Ahh….social media. Where we post about our lives. Where we post about our kids. Where we post about our husbands. Where we post selfies when we actually straighten our hair.
I have a confession. I think I am being fake on social media. I don’t even mean to be fake, but I think I am and this is why…
I only post the pictures that come out great. I only post the videos that are funny. I only post about the amazing days I have had. I only share articles that relate to mommyhood and how amazing it is. I only talk about the cute things Maggie says.
But what about the other stuff? You know….toddler meltdowns. The 236 pictures it took to get that perfect picture that I posted….Check out my youtube video on that. The days that are just plain blah? The times I lose my cool with my toddler. The fact that my house has toys on every square inch of the floor. What about that stuff?
I don’t post about that. I don’t show pictures of those things.
I try to convince the world through social media that my little family is perfect. And seriously, I don’t even mean to.
I think part of it is that I can’t stand the posts people put up that are “rants.” For example, “blah, blah, blah….okay rant over.” Or the “Dear truck driver, thanks for blocking my car in my parking spot so I was stuck for 1 and a half whole minutes!” Ahhh! Those posts drive me nuts.
So in order to not be like that, I try to do the opposite. I always try to stay positive on social media. I never want to be negative or whining or compaining. So I only post the happy things. I only show the perfect pictures of my kids. I only show the pictures of my house when it’s clean. I only post funny things Maggie says but never, EVER talk about the whining…oh, the whining.
I think another part of my ‘fabricated social media life‘ is that I am trying to be professional through my blog. I want clear pictures that will capture my reader’s eyes and hearts and somehow it has turned into this plethora of pictures and videos not only on my blog, but on Facebook and Twitter and now Instagram that only show the good. And from that, people may get the wrong idea of who I am and how I live.
And finally, and most importantly, I like to get reactions from my friends and family on social media.
So I want to give you a little glimpse of what is really going on behind some of these pictures:
We aren’t just talking “pants on the ground,” we’re talking every article of clothing we own on the ground…. and on the bed…. and hanging out of drawers…basically everywhere but in the hamper. The beds get made a couple times a week, but we are usually running out the door and just don’t bother. This is real life, folks. Please tell me I am not the only one.
And honestly, I don’t think I am alone. I think a lot of us portray a “fictitious” life that isn’t the real deal.
When we look at people’s pictures, videos, posts, etc. we don’t see what is really going on and we can make judgements and even compare ourselves to other people based on inaccurate glimpses into their lives. I will actually get down on myself if I see someone’s post about an adorable activity they did with their child because I never do those types of things….I must be a bad mom…
I should be excited for that person, but instead I get down on myself. That’s not right and I need to change!
Now, I am not saying to post the bad moments or the bad pictures on social media. But I am saying that we should never
NEVER compare ourselves to those “supermoms” we see on Facebook because we don’t really know what’s behind that picture or that post.
We should only be trying to please God through what we write on social media and what we post. If we are posting things to get the attention of other people, we are using social media in the wrong ways. And I am totally guilty of this. I want to see people “like” ….and now “love” my stuff. I want the reactions. I love the comments. I seriously do.
But the only thing I should be worried about is how it is pleasing to God.
1 John 2:15 says, “Do not love the world or anything in the world.”
For me, the “world” in the verse is social media. It means I must stop trying to post that perfect picture just to get reactions from my friends and family. I must stop worryng about what I look like to the world and just worry about pleasing God. I must stop leading a “fictitious” social media life.